“Don’t should all over yourself.”
This is a play-on-words phrase in the personal development field that has deep meaning behind it. I know you see the play that is going on here, but what exactly does this phrase mean?
Everyday we throw around the word ‘should’. “I should do the laundry”, “I should take out the trash”, “I shouldn’t eat this chocolate”. Who is dictating to us that we ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ do these things? Shouldn’t we be the ones making decisions for ourselves?
Well it’s simple. When we use the word ‘should’, we use it in a way that disallows us from being the ones in control and makes us feel ashamed/lazy of the task at hand.
Imagine this: You’re on a diet. You’ve been doing so good maintaining your regimen, but you have a craving. A craving for chocolate. You pick up a piece and are looking at it thinking “I shouldn’t eat this chocolate… I shouldn’t eat this chocolate…” but what usually happens? You eat the chocolate. Why does this happen? Well unless you have strong WILL power, you will probably break under the temptation.
Instead of eating the chocolate, you put it down and said “No, I will not eat this chocolate.”
How empowering is that?! You are not only giving yourself your personal power back in making this decision, but you are also letting that chocolate know it is not the boss of you :)! IT will not dictate YOUR actions. YOU WILL. In this simple shift of changing ‘should’ to ‘will’ we take back the control of our actions and our power. We are exercising our free will and our ability to make decisions for ourselves.
Our words have deeper meaning than what we just say on the surface. What we say can have huge impact on how we think, feel, and act. Make this tiny shift in your life and feel the difference.